I had a different post planned for today, but I decided to push that one back to get a little deep with you guys and share some things that have been on my heart. Do you ever feel like everyone around you is winning at life and you’re just kind of bouncing along like a hot mess? That’s been me lately. I’ve found myself over-stressed, over-emotional, and trying to take on too many things without doing any of them really well. Life has been chaotic. My house is a mess, I have bills stacked up that need to be paid (which really drives me nuts), and a to-do list that never gets any shorter—all the while trying to be a half-way decent mother to my sweet kiddos. And to make it even more fun, I’ve been letting myself enter into that toxic game of comparison. You know what I’m talking about—you see someone rocking it and you instantly feel like chump change. And then the negative self-talk starts up. “Dang, she’s so awesome.Why isn’t that happening for me? Their house is so new and fancy and wonderful. I wish I had that. She’s so much better at this than I am.”
Whhhhhyyy? Why do we let ourselves do it? It’s all BS and even going there makes me angry at myself for jumping on the pity-party wagon. But dang, it sure does come easily sometimes. And while I wish I could drop-kick comparison into a dark alley and never see it again, the truth is it will always be around. Seeing other people succeed, seeing others do awesome things you wish you could do, a nicer house, more money, blah, blah, blah. It’s all going to be there. The only way to escape the game is to change your mindset. And that starts with loving yourself first. I know, I know, you’ve heard this before. And it is a little cliché, but it’s true– God has given each one of us our own talents, strengths, skills, and weaknesses. The combination of those things is what makes you who you are. And whether you believe in God or not, the fact is there is only one you on this planet. Only one me. We each have our own calling and journey in life, so getting side-tracked with what other people are doing is a one-way ticket to Failure City. Your heart, your passion, your dreams, and even your struggles all work together to create your unique story. And truly, the difference in all things is simply perspective. Sure, your house may be old, but it has character. You may be flying under the radar now, but your time will come. Or maybe you’re a terrible cook, but a talented quilter. You’re awful at cross-word puzzles, but Sudoku is your jam. You get it…it’s all a matter of perception. And at the end of the day, it’s our decision to enjoy life and be grateful for what God has given each one of us.
I strongly believe that happiness is a choice. Sure, there will always be crap that happens in our lives. Things that aren’t fair or just plain suck, but that can’t define who you are or where you are headed. It’s up to each one of us to wake up and seize the day. Go out into the world, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, ready to rock it. Embrace the bad days, the messy, and the imperfect, but cut yourself some slack for heaven’s sake. Moving forward, even if the path isn’t always perfect, is really all that counts.
So if you’ve been in a bit of a funk like me lately, letting yourself become overwhelmed with life and caught up in junk that doesn’t matter, I hope this post is the kick in the pants you needed to get it together. And a simple reminder that your self-worth isn’t measured by what others are doing.
You are enough. We all are. So just be you.